Sometimes problems arise in relationships that can be greatly helped by speaking to an unbiased third person, someone who can help bring perspective and clarity to both partners in a non-judgmental and safe environment.
Many things, large and small, can bring difficulties for couples, and counselling can be helpful in dealing with them all, no matter what the circumstances, which may include:
- Difficulties with communication
- Blocks resulting from traumatic events, such as affairs, temporary break-ups or bereavements
- Conflicts arising from everyday domestic matters
- Issues around the physical side of relationships
- Problems concerning children and family undercurrents
- Abusive behaviour within the relationship
- Coming to terms with a separation
- Past abuse impacting on your current relationship
- Problems with step families and in-laws
There are many other areas of life that may bring a couple to counselling, including lighter areas such as career choices or relocation issues. Exploring the details and background to any of these problems or dilemmas in an atmosphere of understanding, and with a willingness to forge a new path forward, can be deeply rewarding and healing. The process is not without its challenges, but the counsellor is always there to help move gently through any obstacles or sensitivities that may arise.
Counselling can last for just a few sessions, or become an ongoing process, as necessary and agreed by all parties, until clarity is reached or new behaviour patterns emerge which break old impasses. Sessions are always conducted in an approachable, friendly and unthreatening manner, and there is no judgement from the counsellor, who is there to ensure that both sides are heard. As feelings become increasingly accessible and easier to express for both partners, so they become less overwhelming, allowing more positive and often previously unforeseen choices to make themselves known, taking life onwards in a fresh and lighter way.
Counselling is a completely private and confidential process (legal exceptions are made only in potentially life-threatening circumstances); what is said in sessions is purely between both partners and the counsellor, and never repeated outside, thus creating a safe, professional environment where thoughts and feelings can be expressed with honesty and complete confidence.